That didn't take long....

I have been trying to vary my visiting schedule, so I can see if appearances change when I am not expected. Guess they do, or they just don't get it.

Craig's clothes are still in bags in the bottom of the closet, he has not been showered, and his snugsack is missing. In the time I was at the nursing home ( about 90 mins), I was unable to
find one RN (although the med cart unattended in the hall was there). I did see an lpn who kept steering Craig back into the room ( I think so I wouldn't come out). The aides apparently decided to all take their breaks at the same time, and the whole wing looked to be unattended.

Now I understand it is a weekend, so there are staffing difficulties, but this is a 24/7 facility. That means the care should be equal no matter what day it is. I also think the staff should be aware that even if the residents are unaware of the things they are saying, the visitors aren't. And I heard some very unpleasant things being said about the residents and their care, and to the residents also. I was under the impression that we placed our loved ones when we, the amateurs, could no longer handle the care needed. That is why we have placed them in the care of these "professionals". The people who are trained to handle this with patience and caring.

I guess I was wrong based on what I have heard. I hope this is specific to this facility, or that I just happened to hit in a bad year.....

Craig is truly zoned today, no recognition, no sensible conversation, shuffling gate.I brought coffee in a travel mug and mini bagels, which he ate laying down. When he insisted on drinking in a reclining position also, I held my breath, but apparently he is gettin good at it.

After multiple tries, he's off and running again. I also noted he is still exhibiting muscle spasm signs, but since I could not find a nurse, I couldn't ask about the requested meds changes either.

I also made an appt with the Elder law atty for the end of the month. I will inquire about guardianship, and what to do with the lump sum and Medicaid at that time.

I will be calling the new nursing home for an update on the status of the waiting list this week too. Apparently, this is the only way to get him better treatment.

I am sssooooo tired. Mentally, physically and emotionally. They say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Well I certainly don't feel stronger, so what does that mean?